Anonymous asked: Is there anyone you wish you had been a little more aggressive in chasing, to see what might have happened?

Considering I chased my current man to the states from New Zealand I think we were pretty aggressive with making sure we got the chance to be together and really figure out if what we have between us was sustainable and real.

To be honest I have never felt this way about another person, and if I had I would have tried very hard to be together. However I am one of those people who believe that everything falls into place at the end.

So if I had been on the chase and the man I was chasing gave me an indication that he wasn’t on the same level as I was, it would definitely make me pause and think. No-one enjoys someone professing their love and interest repeatedly and early on in the relationship unless the feelings are mutual.

Plus, I didn’t realize this at the time but looking back most of the guys I was interested in or had sex with already had partners (they were open obviously because I would hate to be ‘the other man’) or we were clearly there for a purely sexual reason.

But those are the pitfalls of being interested in older men. My partner got a little freaked when he first met my parents because of our age difference, He came to the conclusion that they would have had to deal with an age difference anyway because if we hadn’t pursued our relationship then my next relationship would have been with a more mature man anyway.

andrewdavidalex asked: I know this is way late but I'm the wardrobe stylist of [yourblog]/post/34292888853/see-fashion-forward-interestingly-dressed-guys and I just wanted to let you know that the model is an XL on top and size 34 waist with huge legs. My boyfriend is also size 38 waist and has a big belly and I borrowed most of the tops from him. Don't give up hope!

hey bud, thanks for letting me know this.

I think you did an awesome job on your styling for the shoot and I haven’t lost hope what-so-ever with regards to finding interesting clothes. Although I have discovered that due to my odd proportions (a very long but comparably slim torso) my more structured formal wear (eg: suits) will never be a perfect fit straight off the rack.

I need to keep in mind how prepared and excited I was for interesting fashion because my desire to dress in an interesting and provocative manner has been somewhat muted lately.

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lunaki replied to your post: Other new things on the horizon

Bodybuilding dot com, short cut to size or kris Gethins 12 week train. Google and go :)

Do those sites all have descriptions of the exercises they recommend? Are they all heavily dependent on equipment?

I have down the first two months (of three) of shortcut to size and it works. More emphasis on free weights because they build up more muscle control compared to confined machine movements. However there is a lot of cable work- especially for working your back and arms. They give you plenty of tips on correct form and how to complete the exercises, the workout creator has intro videos with tips and you can watch example videos that demonstrate how to do each exercise in the program.

I would recommend it, It starts off pretty strong and you definitely need to be following some sort of nutrition plan (even as simple as making sure you are getting lots of protein, all your required vitamins and plenty of sleep, they give you tips). The workouts are pretty long if your gym is busy, but I took my time and most seemed to last about an hour.

Go get it buddy!

hardcoreadoration asked: Looking studly!

cheers buddy- I love compliments :)

mydearregulus asked: What a beautiful man, with beautiful tastes, hugs

oh shucks, thanks buddy